One of my old acquaintances who are living in the States called me. I have talked with her more than 10 times in the last 5 years. She had a daughter who can earn more than 10 thousand dollars monthly. Her daughter was a financially capable career woman who was born in 1984. Both the mother and the daughter are quite positive about the marriage, and the mother wanted a man of profession as her daughter’s future husband while her daughter generally followed the mother’s advice.
The woman had no reason not to have a perfect husband.
She was introduced several times to candidates in the last 5 years, but each time ended in failure. She had no reason not to have a perfect husband. It is like that good looking things go wrong in the end, and really bad looking things turn out to be a godsend in the end. In the meantime, there were no contacts between the mother and me, and I thought that the daughter had a good result in finding her husband. Generally people do not contact the marriage information agency when things are going all right.
Suddenly her mother called me today. She told me that her daughter is going steady with an ethnic Taiwanese medical doctor in the last 6 months.
“What a great news it is! Your daughter deserves that quality of partners.”
The mother’s interest was, however, not the thing about the prospective son-in-law but the consultation about her agony.
“I think it is already late to talk about the marriage. Mt daughter’s partner has not talked about the marriage yet.”
She was heavy enough.
“By the way, I heard that the man wanted to live together.”
“I think it is not uncommon in the States.”
“It may be. The ethnic Koreans are, however, not. Moreover, in case of the woman…”
I do not know what the man had in his mind. I think, however, that it is not kind of easy-going thing that a man and a woman in their thirties had been steady for more than 6 months. Whatever it may be, the woman had lots of thing to muse around.
“Hence, what about meeting another good man instead of going steady with this man? I want to advise my daughter to stop meeting the man.”
The mother seemed to be expecting me to introduce her daughter a good partner anyways.
I asked my couple manager not to give her vague convictions that they would bring her the best partners. At this point, the credibility of the couple manager was more important than the monetary benefits they brought.
The woman was financially capable but she is already more than 30 years old. The meeting and marriage are very complex, and thus there are certain limits that the couple manager can do nothing about.
I made my final conclusion. It is to opt for a double-play; while she is going steady with that man, she would meet another man at the same time.
“I think it has too much risk meeting that man only. The mind of the daughter is also important. I think it will be the best that your daughter meets another man while keeping contacts with that man. I think it would be necessary for her to talk about the marriage with that man once in awhile.”
I think this mother’s agony is that of all the mothers who have nubile daughters in the States.