It is very important to think about the standard of my happiness, and figure out what my spouse should be like. It is like to blaze a trail to the wilderness. For a long time, there has been something like a criterion of marriage. There has been a generally accepted rule regarding the age differences. Generally people are accustomed to the reality that man is older than the woman, and there are also lots of saying about the age differences.
Time changes everything. We need be, however, more flexible about this matter. Sometimes the age difference cuts off the meeting fundamentally. It is the condition beyond your control. A career woman Ms E could not understand the relationship of “older woman and younger man couple.” She felt it is fickle when a man junior to her by 4 years tried to bill and coo her. When the man’s effort to win her love, however, continued more than one year, she opened her mind.
“I asked myself why I had refused his advances even though I had known that he had been a good man. I think that I was more concerned about the temporization.”
Her calculation showed her that the man who had been with the company only two years had almost nothing compared to her nine year tenure in that company.
“The age difference is only 4 years, but the tenure in the company was 7 years difference, and that made a great difference in financial capacity.”
If she, a 36 years old woman, wants to marry that young man, she thought that she had to yield a lot. Notwithstanding the problems, the man seemed to be so nice. Unbeknownst she began to persuade herself anyways. To think about the yield itself, you are on the ground that a man is older than a woman, and thus a man must earn more than a woman. She thought that the man began his career only late, but he has many years to go. They marry sometime later.
If you go to a group meeting, it is almost impossible to know how old somebody is, what kind of profession he/she has, and what school he/she has graduated from. Many couples meet the partners in the group meeting and marry without any preset conditions. Therefore, many couples are married without the preset “criterion of marriage.”
There are some men who are attracted more by older women, and some women who are attracted more by younger men. Sometimes there are people who do not care about the age differences at all.
If you like somebody, I would recommend that you do not ignore your emotion because your female partner is older than you or your male partner is younger than you.