A woman will marry in March. She is one of the Korean-American women who are working hard as everybody does. I was contacted by her mother when she was 31 years old. Her mother called me after reading my column.
She decided to remain in the States after finishing her degree in a university. She had nothing special anyways. Her educational background, outward appearance, and job were not more excellent than those of others. Her father retired from a certain big corporation in Korea, and had a middle class family. When I met her mother for the first time, she asked me bluntly.
“When I looked the advertisement of other marriage information company, it had kind of express charge. Can you handle mine as an express case if I pay the so-called express charge?”
There are peoples who want to pay extra charges when they want the marriage in a short time or want sort of special kind of people as spouses. In many cases it is difficult to deny the proposal. It is easy to get much money if I take advantage of the psychological conditions.
It is, however, the way the couple manager should avoid, though. Sometimes I dream of her mother’s pitiful voice. In a long term business, I need to think about the dollars but the pennies. I said to her mother,
“You don’t need to pay extra charges. The only thing that you need to do is to promise me three conditions.”
First, it is not easy. It may be much difficult. The place where she lived had few ethnic Korean people. This is a fact, and we should accept the fact.
Second, you need wait for a while, though. There may be no acceptable partners currently. The meeting, however, may be made anytime because there is a steady flow of new subscribers.
Third, you need think this case as an insurance policy. You invested money in an account to select a good spouse for your daughter.
There were no available partners in the first year. In such case many subscribers secede from the subscription. Her mother and she were waiting without sudden give-up anyways.
In the second year, a person was introduced to her. Her mother begged.
“Aren’t there any other ways? My daughter is getting older year by year…”
There was only one thing that I can do.
“Can you please wait a little bit more?”
In the third year, a certain father consulted me. His son was living around two hour drive from the woman’s residence. The man was in a similar situation like hers. Hence, I introduced the man to the woman. There were all kinds of difficult stuffs in the course of introduction. At the first introduction, one party was not within contact. At the second introduction, one party lost the phone, and thus the meeting was not available. I was not to give up notwithstanding.
There are many women in the States who are in such situations. In this case she was lucky to make it even after a long waiting period.
A new couple will be born in March this year after years of waiting.